Taking Responsibility in a Codependent Relationship

You know the worst thing about living alone? When you misplace something, you have no one to blame but yourself. I was looking for my headphones the other day. I was frustrated that I couldn’t find a single pair and more frustrated I had no one to blame but me! That got me thinking about…

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Are You Helping or Enabling?

You are a caring and loving person. You have a deep-rooted desire to help and support your loved ones. However, paradoxically, sometimes helping can lead to unintended consequences that ultimately cause harm to the very people you intend to help. Then help becomes enabling. The Hazeldon foundation defines enabling as, “doing for a loved one…

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Are You Caught in a Drama Triangle?

When we continue to enable dysfunctional behavior, we fall prey to the Drama Triangle. Developed by Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UC, San Francisco Stephen Karman, the Drama Triangle consists of three roles, Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor. While you might see yourself and your loved ones as a specific role, in truth, each person…

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Stop Repeating the Same Mistakes of Enabling Bad Behavior

Have you ever become frustrated because you find yourself in the same (or similar) predicament over and over with a loved one who will not change? How many times do you realize, often too late, that as careful as you thought you were being, you made choices that led you down the same old path…

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Improve Your Life with Neurofeedback

Neurofeedback, also known as EEG biofeedback or neurotherapy, is a non-invasive, evidence-based treatment approach. It involves the monitoring and self-regulation of brainwave activity to improve brain function. By utilizing real-time feedback of your brain’s activity, neurofeedback teaches your brain how to modify how fast or slow it fires. This, ultimately leads to enhancing your mental…

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When Helping Hurts – Enabling the Addiction of Your Child

When I was a beginning therapist and working in community mental health, I witnessed an example of what happens when families fall victim to enabling the addiction of their children. One of our services to the community was to help complete the paperwork for involuntarily hospitalization for a loved one’s treatment. Two families came in…

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Codependency – When Is Enough Enough?

When we work with addiction we say that an addict won’t change until they “hit their bottom.” Waiting for this to happen can be maddening for their loved ones, especially painful for loved ones with codependency issues. As they watch the trouble that an addict creates for themselves and others, they think, “When is he/she…

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How Neurofeedback Helped Me

As the founder of Marietta West Cobb Counseling Center, I first learned about neurofeedback when I met Melissa Hergert of BrainTrain Centers, Inc. over 5 years ago. Melissa introduced me to neurofeedback with the offer of a complimentary Brain Map and follow-up report of findings. It came at just the right time. I spent over…

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10 Good Reasons to Get into Recovery

You’ve heard that voice, “C’mon, go ahead and have a (insert your drug of choice here).” That voice always has at least one really good reason to use. At those times, you may struggle to resist the urge to use. The purpose of this article is to help you fight that addictive voice by giving…

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Does your loved one have a Substance Use Disorder?

When a loved one begins acting in unhealthy ways that are out of character, you may consider whether they are suffering from an addiction (meaning they are dependent) or abuse (meaning they not dependent but use is creating problems) disorder. Here are some warning signs you may notice to help you in deciding when to…

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