What is Anxiety?

Do you feel anxiety before a dental visit or starting something new? Have you gotten the jitters before speaking in front of a large group or sweaty palms when thinking about the future? These are common reactions when faced with something that’s scary or unfamiliar and it doesn’t necessarily mean that anything is wrong. However, some…

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Twelve Ways to Turn Around a Bad Day

Everyone has a bad day now and then. You only have two choices: you can either ride it out, or do something to turn the day around. A time machine isn’t an option, but there are plenty of tactics you can apply to put your day on a more satisfying path. You might have woken…

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Teen Marijuana Use – It Ain’t the Pot from Your Day

As an addiction counselor, I’ve heard all kinds of rationale for using drugs. Some reasonable (“a drink with dinner is relaxing”) and some not so reasonable (“with all my troubles, I deserve to get high”). One rationale I’ve heard many people use about marijuana is, “It’s only pot… it’s natural… like an herb.” Nowadays I…

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Taking Responsibility in a Codependent Relationship

You know the worst thing about living alone? When you misplace something, you have no one to blame but yourself. I was looking for my headphones the other day. I was frustrated that I couldn’t find a single pair and more frustrated I had no one to blame but me! That got me thinking about…

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The Crucial Role of Self-Care During the Stressful Holiday Season

The holiday season, with its twinkling lights, festive decorations, and joyful gatherings, often paints a picture of warmth and merriment. However, beneath the surface of this seemingly idyllic scene lies a reality that many experience—the stress and chaos that accompany the holidays. Amidst the hustle and bustle of shopping, planning, and socializing, it becomes imperative…

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Are You Helping or Enabling?

You are a caring and loving person. You have a deep-rooted desire to help and support your loved ones. However, paradoxically, sometimes helping can lead to unintended consequences that ultimately cause harm to the very people you intend to help. Then help becomes enabling. The Hazeldon foundation defines enabling as, “doing for a loved one…

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Talking to Your Child About War

Talking to your child about sensitive and complex topics like the conflicts in the Middle East and the Ukraine can be challenging, but you can approach these discussions with care and empathy. Here are some tips to help you have a productive conversation: Talking To Your Child So They Can Understand You do not need…

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Boundary Setting – How Do I Say No and Mean It?

Saying “no” can sometimes be challenging and evoke feelings of guilt or discomfort. However, setting boundaries and learning to say “no” when necessary is essential for your well-being and personal growth and to have healthy relationships. In her book, Dare to Lead, Brene Brown lists boundary setting as one of the key elements for building…

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Are You Caught in a Drama Triangle?

When we continue to enable dysfunctional behavior, we fall prey to the Drama Triangle. Developed by Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UC, San Francisco Stephen Karman, the Drama Triangle consists of three roles, Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor. While you might see yourself and your loved ones as a specific role, in truth, each person…

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