Taking Responsibility in a Codependent Relationship

You know the worst thing about living alone? When you misplace something, you have no one to blame but yourself. I was looking for my headphones the other day. I was frustrated that I couldn’t find a single pair and more frustrated I had no one to blame but me! That got me thinking about…

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Are You Helping or Enabling?

You are a caring and loving person. You have a deep-rooted desire to help and support your loved ones. However, paradoxically, sometimes helping can lead to unintended consequences that ultimately cause harm to the very people you intend to help. Then help becomes enabling. The Hazeldon foundation defines enabling as, “doing for a loved one…

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Are You Caught in a Drama Triangle?

When we continue to enable dysfunctional behavior, we fall prey to the Drama Triangle. Developed by Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UC, San Francisco Stephen Karman, the Drama Triangle consists of three roles, Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor. While you might see yourself and your loved ones as a specific role, in truth, each person…

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Stop Repeating the Same Mistakes of Enabling Bad Behavior

Have you ever become frustrated because you find yourself in the same (or similar) predicament over and over with a loved one who will not change? How many times do you realize, often too late, that as careful as you thought you were being, you made choices that led you down the same old path…

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Codependency – When Is Enough Enough?

When we work with addiction we say that an addict won’t change until they “hit their bottom.” Waiting for this to happen can be maddening for their loved ones, especially painful for loved ones with codependency issues. As they watch the trouble that an addict creates for themselves and others, they think, “When is he/she…

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Ways to Become More Positive

Took a nice long walk last night and struck up a conversation with a gentleman who was working in his very big, very steep yard. “The weeds have gotten away from me this year,” he said, “What will all this rain we’ve had.” Before I thought about it, I responded, “Yes, the rain’s been bad…

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Depression in Men – More Common than You Think

According to the Mayo Clinic, we diagnose depression in men half as often as women. Women may be more susceptible to depression due to the hormonal changes that occur in women over their lifespan. But perhaps we miss male depression for a couple of reasons: Men are less likely to seek help Depression in men…

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Manage Homework Stress

It’s that time of year again! The school year is about to begin here in Marietta, Georgia. Students and parents are getting their supplies together and getting ready to start a brand new year. Many of you are hoping that this year is going to be better than the last. Here are some easy tips…

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